Gay men who are not considered sexually desirable are more likely to engage in risky sexual behavior according to new research out of the University of Toronto. They may also develop psychological problems as a consequence of feeling undesirable.
The study examines the link between sex and mental health â’“ found that undesirable gay men face stigmatization, avoidance and outright rejection, which can lead to depression, anxiety and alcohol abuse. It also highlighted cases whereby undesirable gay men will forgo safe-sex discussion and, in some cases, condom use, in the context of sex with a more attractive partner.
â’We tend to devalue sexual life as something that is extracurricular and frivolous, but this research shows a significant link between sexual desirability and health,â’ says Green. â’Men with low levels of â’˜erotic capitalâ’ are systematically marginalized, which can take a real toll both physically and psychologically.â’
For more information on the study, published in the current edition of the Journal of Health and Social Behavior, please contact: Adam Isaiah Green, Assistant Professor of Sociology: 416-978-8261 or AdamIsaiah.Green@utoronto.ca
Personal Note
This study deserves a duh! Everyone knows that those who have a lower self esteem . . . tend to do anything to please the other. I remember having this same conversation with a friend questioning (over nine years ago) sexuality and self esteems. We not only discussed the number of gay individuals trying to live hetrosexual lives and the number of straight individuals who are trying to live homo/bi sexual lives.
My friend said, “There are people that are too ugly that the only way they get sex is to do anything. Even go gay for a lay.”
How mental stability always goes into question and the direct link to their choices. The basic need to be love and to be wanted has not only hindered their decision making process but leads lives that are just lies. There too many people who are living unhappy lives.
If you are unhappy, make the appropriate change and learn that it is ok to be alone for the right reasons.